In Roman's apology, posted to her Instagram account, she took responsibility for her words — saying that she used Teigen and Kondo's names "disparagingly to try to distinguish myself, which I absolutely do not have an excuse for."
"It was stupid, careless and insensitive," Roman said. "I need to learn, and respect, the difference between being unfiltered and honest vs. being uneducated and flippant."
She wrote in her statement, "The burden is not on them (or anyone else) to teach me, and I’m deeply sorry that my learning came at Chrissy and Marie’s expense. They’ve worked extremely hard to get to where they are and both deserve better than my tone deaf remarks."
Reflecting on her controversial comments, Roman said she wished she had chosen to "express myself without tearing someone down."
"Among the many uncomfortable things I’ve begun processing is the knowledge that my comments were rooted in my own security. My inability to appreciate my own success without comparing myself to and knocking down others — in this case two accomplished women — is something I recognize I most definitely struggle with, and am working to fix. I don’t want to be a person like that," she explained.
Roman also accepted criticism that her comments could have been perceived as racially charged, writing in her apology, "I’m not the victim here, and my insecurities don’t excuse this behavior. I’m a white woman who has and will continue to benefit from white privilege and I recognize that makes what I said even more inexcusable and hurtful."
"The fact it didn’t occur to me that I had singled out two Asian women is one hundred percent a function of my privilege (being blind to racial insensitivities is a discriminatory luxury)," she added. "I know that our culture frequently goes after women, especially women of color, and I’m ashamed to have contributed to that. I want to lift up and support women of color, my actions indicated the opposite."
In issuing a formal apology to Teigen, and Kondo, Roman said it was a way to "acknowledge that this is a part of a broader, related discourse about cultural appropriation in the food world, and who gets to be successful in this space."
"I want anyone reading who has been hurt by my actions or comments (past of present) to know that I am listening and I am sorry. I commit to being open and receptive to this conversation as it continues and to accept criticism that is coming my way and to try to do better," she wrote.
Roman's note ended with her admitting that she "messed up" and she will use this experience "as motivation to do and be better."
"It is no one’s obligation to accept my apology or to help me improve," she said, welcoming readers to "share their knowledge, guidance, or opinions" on how to "navigate these areas" by emailing her.
"I know some will use this as an opportunity to express their anger. I hope many will share advice. I will read it all," she said.
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