Are you a ‘trashy’ over-sharer? Elegance coach reveals the things classy ladies NEVER divulge – including future plans, finances and ‘controversial’ opinions
- Anna Bey revealed in her YouTube video what classy ladies should avoid sharing
- She said in her clip avoid repeating rumours and showing off about good deeds
- The School of Affluence founder splits her time between London and Geneva
An elegance coach has revealed the aspects sophisticated women never divulge – including future plans, finances and ‘controversial’ opinions.
Anna Bey, who splits her time between London and Geneva, explained in her most recent YouTube clip what classy ladies should avoid sharing – from repeating rumours to showing off about their good deeds.
She also suggested elegant women never reveal intimate details about their love life – unless they’re talking to their therapist or a very close and trustworthy friend.
Anna, who founded The School of Affluence, boasts 1.1million subscribers on YouTube, where she shows viewers how to live a ‘feminine lifestyle’ in the hopes of attracting an affluent partner – and claims the things you share play a key part in this.
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Anna Bey (pictured), who splits her time between London and Geneva, explained in her most recent YouTube clip what classy ladies should avoid sharing – from repeating rumours to showing off about their good deeds
Never share your plans
‘Elegant ladies never share their plans. Ladies, always move in silence. Never share what you’re working towards, or what you’re planning on doing, or what you’re up to, unless it has already manifested in your life,’ said Anna.
‘And I know that sometimes it can be tempting to talk about your next move, because you get that little dopamine release every time you kind of share your plans and dreams with another person.
‘But I want you to really hold back from doing this because there is a reason for this. You’re going to have a higher chance of manifesting your goals if you actually keep it to yourself.
‘So spare yourself from any evil-like toxic energy, and just generally speaking, toxic people by not sharing to them what you’re up to.
Avoid talking about finances
‘Do not share your income. Don’t share your bank balance and don’t share how much savings you have in the account,’ said the elegance coach.
‘You don’t want to let anyone know of your or your family’s or your partner’s financial situation because discretion is a key part of being elegant.
‘So talking about all of these numbers is just tacky and inappropriate. And the reason for that is because number one, it might sound like you’re bragging, number two, it might look like you’re trying to be superior to others.
‘Plus, you also don’t want to become a target for people who might want to just take advantage of your financial situation.’
‘So instead of spending your time talking about what you’re going to be doing, start doing what you should be doing. And like this, you’re moving in silence and just showcasing what it has manifested.
Don’t discuss your love life
‘Elegant ladies never share their love life,’ said Anna, but added that ‘this point is quite individual because I don’t think there is a right and wrong. This is all up to each individual.’
She continued: ‘But in my opinion, I don’t think it’s wise to give out a lot of information about your love life.
‘The typical female activity among girlfriends is to usually gossip about their man, maybe even about their sex lies, and generally speaking, discuss their relationship problems.
‘And I have done this a lot myself in the past, but I actually stopped when I realised that this is private information that I think should be kept between the partner and yourself.
‘Plus, it’s also a matter of respect to the relationship and to the other individual… I also don’t think it’s of anyone’s business, what the couple do in private or what problems they have.
‘Now, I don’t mind sharing some general things, let’s say, about my relationship that shows that no relationship is perfect, because it’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to open up to the world and to your close people.
‘But I think when it comes to the point of airing really intimate information is where I personally draw the line.’
However Anna added that talking to a therapist about your relationship, or a ‘very close girlfriend who will give good guidance’ is sometimes necessary.
Anna (pictured) also suggested elegant women never reveal intimate details about their love life – unless they’re talking to their therapist or a very close and trustworthy friend
Never divulge someone else’s confidential information and don’t repeat rumours
‘Now we all know that elegant ladies never gossip, and that’s a rule I hope all of you ladies live by’, said the elegance coach.
‘But there are two types of gossip. There is idle gossip that everyone does, which is pretty harmless because that means you are speaking of another person in general or in a positive way.
‘Then there is the malicious gossip when you share someone’s confidential information, or let’s say intimate details that someone has shared with you, and you’re now passing it on as a form of entertainment to your friends or even the worst ladies, when you hear some nasty rumours about someone.
Don’t share your controversial views
‘Now one mistake that I keep seeing ladies make over and over again is when they’re sharing their controversial opinions,’ insisted Anna.
‘And I’m talking about things such as religious, political, or socially taboo topics specifically, because elegant ladies do not even approach these sensitive topics because they might offend the people around them and create a lot of friction and the key of elegance is to really be mindful of other people.
‘So you need to understand that it’s okay to share your opinions. That is not the issue. But you have to think about picking your battles. Think through things before you speak or at least read the room or read the surroundings to get a little feel.’
‘And even though you never saw any evidence presented together with this rumour, you just assume that well “if it’s gossip, then it must be true, right?” And then you keep passing this rumour on to other people and you present it as facts.
‘Now you see where I’m going ladies, malicious gossip in general is incredibly toxic, and especially for your own karma. Because what you send out to the universe is what will come back to you.
‘So you need to make sure that your conscious is clean. But you also need to think about what message are you sending to other people about your behaviour? Because if that’s how you talk about other people behind their backs, then imagine how you’re going to be talking about these people.’
Stop boasting about your good deeds
Anna explained: ‘Elegant ladies never share their good deeds.
‘I’ve spoken about how important it is to give back to your society, to the community, to the world somehow by serving the community, by helping others or let’s say by donating money.
‘However, we don’t do this because we’re then going to brag about it afterwards.
‘We’re doing this in private, we’re doing it because it makes us feel good.
‘It makes us feel that we are contributing to society especially when we are privileged ourselves.
‘But unfortunately some people are boasting about it, which is not something I wish you my dear elegant ladies to do. So if you are giving to charity, then do so in private.’
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