DEAR DEIDRE: I AM fed up with being bullied and belittled by my in-laws and my partner not standing up to them, so am thinking about leaving.
We have been together for eight years. He is 33, I am 28 and our son is five.
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They took against me from the start but came around when our son was born.
They showered him with attention and gifts.
It lasted a couple of years, then my husband’s sister had two children in quick succession.
Now all they talk about is her children, and they ignore our son, which he has picked up on.
My partner has no friends or sense of independence and relies on his parents.
The rest of the family take their side and I get scoffed at by them all.
I feel worn down and don’t want to fight them any longer.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner learned early on that it took submission to win his parents’ approval, and sadly he has not changed as an adult.
Because you stand up to their behaviour, you are a threat to the family dynamic.
Things will only change if he is willing to assert himself with his family.
If he cannot, or will not, you face fighting a losing battle for yourself and for your son.
My e-leaflet Standing Up For Yourself can help him and you can find support through Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).
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