DEAR DEIDRE: I ASKED my partner to put her dog into a crate just for an hour when I was feeling ill. It caused one almighty row and now my partner says we’re over.
I was ill with gastroenteritis and my partner’s little dog jumps all over us. I’m a man of 50 and my partner is 52. We have lived together at her place for a year and I rent out my flat.
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We couldn’t get back on track after this argument, though we’d been getting on well before. We had planned to sell both our places and buy a house by the sea but now that’s not happening. My partner insists I shouted at her about the dog, which I don’t remember doing.
When she suggested that I move back to my flat when lockdown ends, I asked for some money back that I’d lent her daughter. That was the final nail in the coffin.
I still love her and don’t want to leave.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your re-quest about the dog was reasonable. Maybe the relationship didn’t feel as strong to her as it did to you. Have you been doing your fair share of the chores? That’s a common source of resentment.
Tell her you love her. Offer to work on any changes she wants but, if she’s adamant, you may have to accept it’s over.
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