DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband has been diagnosed with a lung condition but hasn’t changed his lifestyle.
If anything, he’s got worse. He doesn’t exercise, he’s very overweight and it’s affecting his mobility.
He regularly misses hospital appointments because he can’t be bothered to go on his own.
He doesn’t follow the GP’s advice to self-help.
I’m 32 and my husband is 33.
We have a son of four.
My husband shouts at me if I try to talk to him about it.
I’ve begun to wonder if I should stick around.
He’s already said he expects me to care for him as his health declines.
He has the capability to improve himself but doesn’t want to.
Should I leave and focus on our son?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Tell him you understand he is scared and unhappy but that acting in such a self-destructive way is damaging for your son and straining your relationship.
Ask why you should sacrifice your life to look after him unless he shows he values his life enough to look after himself.
You can both find support through the British Lung Foundation (blf.org.uk, 03000 030 555).
My e-leaflet End Weight Worries can help too.
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