Online dating is scary and so far it has only led me to feel disappointment

DEAR DEIDRE: IN March I joined an online dating site but have been disappointed so far and am wondering whether I scare men off.

I have never had a proper boyfriend before, though I am now 20.


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I found a man on the site who looked pretty nice and I got up the courage to send him a post. He’s 21 and I was thrilled when he replied.

We got on well and it seemed like we had interests in common as well.

When he asked me what I was looking for, I said commitment.

He messaged me back saying he thought we aren’t right for each other and he wouldn’t be contacting me again.

Did I say the wrong thing?

DEIDRE SAYS: No. You answered his question honestly.

The problem was that he is not yet looking for commitment.

The upside of this is that you are not being used and you are not wasting time.

Next time, you might add that you realise getting to know someone and finding out whether they are right for you can take time.

And my e-leaflet Learning To Love can help.

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