Kimberly Anne started chatting to a man on Tinder and found they were getting on well so she agreed to a date.
The pair even discussed how they were both ‘looking for someone special’.
But then the 31-year-old discovered her match had already met that someone special – as he had got engaged just a month earlier.
He came up as a suggested friend on Facebook and she was in ‘complete shock’ that his profile clearly stated he was in a relationship, and then she saw a post from his partner about the proposal.
In revenge, she got in touch with his fiancé to tell her what he had been up to.
Although the man claimed Kimberly had the ‘wrong person’, his incriminating arm tattoo convinced her that she had the right man.
Kimberly, of Palm Beach County, Florida, said: ‘I asked him what he was looking for and he asked me the same question and I told him that I was hoping to find my special someone and he responded with “I love that”.
‘He sent me a message on Whatsapp and I asked him why he was messaging me on there instead of just sending a regular text and he just changed the subject.
‘When I started scrolling on Facebook it brought up suggested friends and I recognised him immediately from his profile picture.
‘I thought I’d take a look and the first thing I noticed was that it said he was in a relationship.
‘Hoping it was old I clicked on her profile and the first post was an engagement announcement from exactly one month ago.
‘My first emotion was just complete shock, I could not believe it – I was just flabbergasted.
‘I wasn’t seriously emotionally invested yet, but I was angry on her behalf that he would do this to her.’
Kimberly confronted the man about her discovery but he responded with – ‘wrong person honey’.
Kimberley said: ‘I looked again at his Facebook pictures and compared a tattoo on his arm to the pictures on his Tinder profile and it was the exact same tattoo, so I told him this.
‘I just felt if the tables were turned I would want her [his fiancé] to tell me.
‘I feel women have to support women in these situations – we have to have each other’s backs.’
She contacted his fiancé via Facebook messenger and shared the messages he had sent her.
Kimberly said: ‘My whole body was shaking when I was sending these messages because I didn’t know how she was going to react.
‘I felt so awful and partially responsible that I could potentially be breaking this woman’s heart.
‘I said do what you will with this information, I would want to know if it was me.
‘She just said “it’s ok it’s not your fault, thanks”.’
She then blocked him and unmatched him on the dating app as she was afraid of any backlash from him.
Kimberly has since heard nothing from the couple but believes they remain engaged as their relationship status and engagement post remain online.
Kimberly said: ‘Her response was so calm and minimal that I don’t know if she was in shock or maybe this was something that had happened before and she wasn’t really surprised by it.
‘I’m afraid that she has decided to forgive him, but that’s her choice if that’s what she wanted to do.
‘Personally I would have ended the engagement immediately, but maybe she was more understanding than I would have been.
‘Later in the day I looked at his profile and saw he had changed his profile picture to one of him and his fiancé together hugging.
‘Maybe that was his way of saying that it won’t happen again through telling everyone he’s totally in love with her.’
She decided to post everything on her own Facebook but said she was ‘saddened’ by the sheer number of responses she received from women who have had similar experiences.
Kimberly said: ‘I want to believe that this is not something that is common.
‘I’ve been single for eight months and ultimately want to find my special person – I would like my next relationship to be my last.
‘I have to be very careful going forward about what questions I ask and really assess the way they’re answering those and continue to see if I can find anything about them online before I get too invested.’
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