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<\/p>\nA threesome is my biggest fantasy. I\u2019m sexually confident and always up for action.<\/p>\n
Yet, every time I offer to organise a party in our home, my partner shoots me down. She calls me disgusting and perverted.<\/p>\n
She won\u2019t even discuss having a drink with a local bisexual woman who has admitted to fancying us both.<\/p>\n
How do I get her to be more adventurous?<\/p>\n
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JANE SAYS: Stop right there. If your partner doesn\u2019t want a threesome, respect her wishes. If she is only interested in monogamy, then leave it.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
How strong are your urges? Strong enough to consider finding someone new? Edgy sex isn\u2019t for everyone. Be careful what you wish for…<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
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<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n'I have secret earner'<\/h3>\n
I have a secret cleaning job. My boyfriend doesn\u2019t know it, but every day I go round to a posh woman\u2019s house for four hours.<\/p>\n
I do everything from changing the beds to cleaning the chandeliers. She pays well.<\/p>\n
He doesn\u2019t like the idea of me seeing other people or having my own money.<\/p>\n
He pays all the bills and I have to ask for any spending money.<\/p>\n
I feel more secure having earnings even if I do have to stash them at my mum\u2019s for safety.<\/p>\n
How do I make him understand that I need some freedom when I live in fear of him catching me out?<\/p>\n
JANE SAYS: This is a toxic relationship you have to get out of.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Financial abuse is a very serious issue. Your bully boyfriend is attempting to trap and control you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
By keeping you short of money, he holds you in his power, which is abhorrent.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
You are suffering domestic abuse and must seek help from family or friends.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
You are living in fear, which is plain wrong.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Contact the nationaldahelpline.org.uk (0808 2000 247) when it is safe to do so.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n