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My pub singer boyfriend thinks he\u2019s a rock star \u2013 I know he\u2019s cheating<\/p>\n
It\u2019s important to support your partner\u2019s endeavours \u2013 whether that be standing on the sidelines at Sunday football, or watching terrible am dram.<\/p>\n
But this reader is getting fed up with her singer boyfriend, whose ego is getting out of control.<\/p>\n
Desperate to live like he rock star, he treats her badly \u2013 and she\u2019s pretty sure he\u2019s cheating. Is there a way to make him see sense and commit?<\/p>\n
Before you go, check out\u00a0last week\u2019s dilemma,\u00a0where a woman was having a secret fling with her uncle.<\/p>\n
The guy I\u2019m involved with thinks he\u2019s Harry Styles, even though he only sings in a band who play at our local pub. He really enjoys the fact that girls flirt with him, and although I\u2019ve been seeing him for over a year, he won\u2019t call me his \u2018girlfriend\u2019, or even commit to an exclusive relationship.<\/p>\n
Yes, he is cute, funny, and talented, but he is also selfish and immature. I love him very much, but I just don\u2019t know how long I should wait for him to grow up and settle down. His band do occasionally play elsewhere in the country, but I don\u2019t think they have what it takes to be successful and famous, which is what he\u2019s hoping for.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve threatened not to be there for him, but he always talks me round. Wherever he is, he phones nearly every day, and if I ignore his call, he just keeps on trying until I do answer. He never talks about other girls, and if I bring the subject up, he just ignores me and talks about something else. Deep down, I know he isn\u2019t faithful, but then he doesn\u2019t claim to be.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s still only 25 and says he isn\u2019t ready for commitment, but that when he is, I\u2019ll be \u2018the one\u2019. I don\u2019t want to play games, but I\u2019m really reluctant to give him up. My friends all think I\u2019m mad.<\/p>\n
What is it about this guy that\u2019s so irresistibly attractive? Okay, he\u2019s handsome and funny, and perhaps you\u2019re drawn to his image as a bad boy \u2018rock star\u2019, but you should value yourself more than to accept being given the run-around by him. Maybe you think life without him would be dull, but being involved with him isn\u2019t going to bring you long-term excitement \u2013 just misery that will eat further into your self-esteem.<\/p>\n
You know he isn\u2019t faithful, so carry out your threats not to be there for him and fill your life with other distractions. Work, hobbies, friends, volunteering \u2013 just keep busy and ignore his calls. You\u2019ll find there is much more to life than this wannabe pop star who isn\u2019t worthy of you.<\/p>\n
He might not be ready for a serious relationship for another ten years, and you deserve better than to wait that long. Maybe being by his side feels special, but it\u2019s always on his terms. I know you don\u2019t want to give him up to some other girl, but just feel sorry for anyone else he gets involved with. At this stage in his life, he is sure to cheat on them, too.<\/p>\n
If there\u2019s one thing you can say in his favour, at least he doesn\u2019t make false promises of fidelity: but he\u2019s not considering your feelings, only his own.<\/p>\n
Learn to love yourself more and move on to someone who genuinely cares about you. It will make you so much happier in the long run.<\/p>\n