{"id":82718,"date":"2023-12-07T09:00:43","date_gmt":"2023-12-07T09:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/posterboyedit.com\/?p=82718"},"modified":"2023-12-07T09:00:43","modified_gmt":"2023-12-07T09:00:43","slug":"was-i-wrong-to-chat-about-my-sons-sex-life-to-my-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/posterboyedit.com\/lifestyle\/was-i-wrong-to-chat-about-my-sons-sex-life-to-my-friends\/","title":{"rendered":"Was I wrong to chat about my son&apos;s sex life to my friends?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1> I found a condom wrapper on my 19-year-old son&#8217;s floor and told my friends about it &#8211; people say I&#8217;ve invaded his privacy, but others say it&#8217;s normal to offload<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>A woman worried after she found a condom wrapper in her son, 19, room<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Read More:\u00a0\u00a0I don&#8217;t let visitors hold my 6-month-old baby unless it suits me<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A woman revealed she found a condom wrapper in her 19-year-old sons bedroom which she told her friends about.<\/p>\n<p>Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained she &#8216;offloaded&#8217; to her friends and they think he&#8217;s being disrespectful.<\/p>\n<p>She revealed her mates gave her &#8216;the third degree&#8217; and said that they wouldn&#8217;t allow it under their own roof, and warned that she&#8217;s at risk of becoming a grandmother.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The mother admitted she&#8217;s annoyed over their unwanted opinions, but\u00a0many rushed to the comments and suggested that she shouldn&#8217;t have invaded her son&#8217;s privacy.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/11\/12\/16\/77708857-12740289-image-a-59_1699805425370.jpg\" height=\"423\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>A woman revealed on Mumsnet that she found a condom wrapper in her 19-year-old sons bedroom which she told her friends about (stock image)\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The post read: &#8216;My son is 19 and I found a piece of condom wrapper on his bedroom floor. I assume he is sexually active.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;His girlfriend has started to stay over which I didn&#8217;t initially agree to but my son gave the excuse that they fell asleep etc.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I&#8217;ve spoken to him about being safe and responsible. Also that he has his whole life ahead of him and wouldn&#8217;t be the right time for a baby etc. He agrees and we left it at that.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She continued: &#8216;Mentioned it to a couple of my best friends as I needed to offload. I know he&#8217;s of age but it&#8217;s reminded me he&#8217;s grown now.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Both friends start giving the third degree. &#8221;Oh my god you&#8217;re going the become a grandma&#8221;, &#8220;Oh gosh he should not be bringing girls to your home&#8221;, &#8221;No way, there&#8217;s no way I&#8217;d allow that under my roof, he can&#8217;t have babies at his age&#8221;. I don&#8217;t know why I mentioned it now. And can you believe both of them were having sex from the ages of 14.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Many rushed to her son&#8217;s defence saying he is an adult and she should respect his privacy.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;Well don&#8217;t discuss your son&#8217;s sex life with your friends and mumsnet then. Respect his privacy.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Another said: &#8216;He&#8217;s an adult male, set your house boundaries and leave him alone. Why are you in his room?&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709317-12740289-Taking_to_the_British_parenting_platform_the_woman_explained_she-a-5_1701936624553.jpg\" height=\"312\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Taking to the British parenting platform, the woman explained she &#8216;offloaded&#8217; to her friends and they think he&#8217;s being disrespectful<\/p>\n<p>While another said: &#8216;WTF are you doing discussing you son&#8217;s sex life with your friends. He&#8217;s 19. Have some respect for him.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>A fourth agreed saying: &#8216;I can&#8217;t believe you think it&#8217;s OK to tell your friends that your 19 year old son is having sex?<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;It&#8217;s not really your business, never mind theirs. Why is your 19 year old son having sex with his girlfriend and using condoms a &#8221;dilemma&#8221; that you need to tell your friends about? You need to respect his privacy.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Others suggested her real problem is the fact she didn&#8217;t set boundaries with her son and she should just tell him his girlfriend can&#8217;t sleep over.<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;You should have had a discussion about sleeping arrangements with your son and laid out any boundaries\/ compromises.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Why have you not done so and then gone off gossiping about his sex life with your mates? You&#8217;re both adults. Have some respect and some backbone.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709331-12740289-image-a-6_1701936624555.jpg\" height=\"115\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709325-12740289-image-a-2_1701936624549.jpg\" height=\"85\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709327-12740289-image-a-7_1701936624556.jpg\" height=\"83\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709323-12740289-image-a-1_1701936624262.jpg\" height=\"282\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709321-12740289-image-a-4_1701936624552.jpg\" height=\"258\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709313-12740289-image-a-11_1701936629078.jpg\" height=\"384\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709315-12740289-image-a-10_1701936627732.jpg\" height=\"109\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709309-12740289-image-m-13_1701936814232.jpg\" height=\"137\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709319-12740289-Many_rushed_to_her_sons_defence_saying_he_is_an_adult_and_she_sh-a-8_1701936624802.jpg\" height=\"208\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Many rushed to her sons defence saying he is an adult and she should respect his privacy<\/p>\n<p>Another said: &#8216;It\u2019s completely up to you if you have his gf over to stay. I think you\u2019re doing it right.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;You\u2019re letting her stay, not naive enough to think they\u2019re not having sex and you are reminding him about safe sex and not having a baby at his age.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I\u2019m not at that stage yet but I think you\u2019re doing a great job and I plan to be the same.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;If you discuss it with friends you need to be prepared for them to tell you that they don\u2019t agree.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Their kids of the same age will be having sex but they\u2019ll be much more sneakier and less likely to have had the safe sex chat.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While someone else wrote: &#8216;If you don&#8217;t want his girlfriend to stay again then tell him that. There was no point in talking to him about being safe, you found a condom wrapper so he already was being safe.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Of course he&#8217;s sexually active at 19. This whole thing must be mortifying for him. And your friends are being very dramatic saying you&#8217;ll be a grandma (especially because he&#8217;s clearly using condoms).\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;If the issue is simply about his gf staying over then make it clear to him that you wont allow it, but don&#8217;t expect that that will stop them having sex.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709311-12740289-image-a-12_1701936629079.jpg\" height=\"210\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/07\/08\/77709329-12740289-Others_stood_up_for_the_mum_saying_she_was_entitled_to_offload_t-a-3_1701936624551.jpg\" height=\"255\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Others stood up for the mum saying she was entitled to offload to her friends and to enter her sons room<\/p>\n<p>Others stood up for the mum saying she was entitled to offload to her friends and to enter her sons room.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;Lovely people on this thread who never mention issues they\u2019re having in their house to people they talk to.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;She\u2019s hardly discussing positions, and of course in a way it\u2019s an issue if anyone else is having sex in your house- it\u2019s awkward- you don\u2019t want to know your son is having sex in the next room!!!<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;And the people saying why would you go into your 19 yos room- I work with loads of young adults and teens and they all say \u2018ah mum was good enough to give my room a quick clean this weekend\u2019 or \u2018mum took my top, washed it and put it back, it was a relief, I\u2019d forgotten I needed it\u2019 etc. Welcome to real life!!!&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While another said: &#8216;Op don&#8217;t worry MN is a completely unrealistic place. It&#8217;s normal to chat your best friends about your son (in fact I&#8217;ve just closed the phobe to my friends chatting about her daughter and her new bf), it&#8217;s normal to go in your sons room, it&#8217;s normal to be worried about his life, it&#8217;s also normal to feel the sadness that your sons going to fly the nest and has his own life and choices etc.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;People missed the point this is more about those feelings of nostalgia&#8230; Don&#8217;t have an answer really, I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;ll go through the same.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12836415\/Mother-condom-wrapper-son-privacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I found a condom wrapper on my 19-year-old son&#8217;s floor and told my friends about it &#8211; people say I&#8217;ve invaded his privacy, but others say it&#8217;s normal to offload A woman worried after she found a condom wrapper in her son, 19, room Read More:\u00a0\u00a0I don&#8217;t let visitors hold my 6-month-old baby unless it&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Was I wrong to chat about my son&amp;apos;s sex life to my friends? 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