My partner went on a boys’ night out and booked an Airbnb to stay in, I’m worried he’s cheating but people say I’m controlling

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A woman has been branded ‘controlling’ after she shared her worry that her partner is cheating when he booked an Airbnb for a birthday night out with friends instead of staying at their shared flat.

Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, her partner was going on a night with his two mates, he said they wanted a bigger space than their studio flat to party in.

She went onto say she found it ‘a little strange’ as the Airbnb he booked is only a few minutes drive from their flat. 

Many rushed to the comments with some saying it ‘seems incredibly reasonable’ to book a place for his birthday.   

The post read: ‘To think it’s weird DP [darling partner] has booked an Airbnb and not just stayed at our flat? 

A woman wondered if her partner was cheating after he booked an Airbnb for a night out with friends instead of staying at their shared flat (stock image) 

‘Can’t tell if I’m massively overthinking this and my mind has just jumped to cheating and staying the night with another woman. It’s typical me being paranoid really and not because he has a history. It just seems quite strange.

‘We own a studio flat which we will definitely up size when we can but for his birthday he wants to have a night with his two best mates, I assumed it would be at ours considering I knew he was hosting it and have planned something for me to do that night (we are doing something together the Friday night) so I’m not there so he will have the place to himself.

‘He has actually renting a two bed/bath place and told me it’s because it’s just more room so they can all comfortably move about and sleep there. Is this normal? 

‘My mum has said why doesn’t he just stay in the empty place he owns and I do have to agree. 

‘Yes it’s not huge but it’s enough to have a couple of close friends over. He says he doesn’t want to feel claustrophobic and the place he has rented has outside seating etc. £120 mind!

‘Am I being unreasonable to think it is a little strange? It’s literally right in our city as well, like a few mins drive so he’s paying £120 to be a couple of minutes away from his empty home? Does this scream suspicious?’

One person wrote: ‘I don’t think it is really. There will be more space. Two bathrooms too. £120 isn’t that much these days. I assume they are having a night in. If so, three in a studio would be cramped. 

Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet , she explained that they live in a studio flat he is have a night with his two mates, therefore he said they wanted a bigger space

Many rushed to the comments with some saying it ‘seems incredibly reasonable’ to book a place for his birthday

‘This way they presumably get a bed/sofa to themselves. If he was cheating he’d only need a one bed surely?’

Another said: ‘That sounds completely reasonable to me. Unless they are uni students, it is very normal for adults to want space.

‘Renting an Airbnb for a birthday with friends couldn’t be more normal and reasonable.

‘I think your view is the odd one, and unless he has done something in the past then looking at this as suspicious and maybe cheating neg is just completely unfair and borderline nasty.’

Someone else said: ‘Nope I’m with him on this one. I presume if its a studio flat it’s basically one large living/sleeping area. I can see why that really wouldn’t sound like fun for 3 of them.

‘I’d gladly pay £120 for a bigger flat & separate rooms and a nice outdoor space rather than having to be in the one room all evening then have to sleep in the same room on the floor.’

While others suggested that her boyfriend was actually being ‘considerate’ so their flat wouldn’t be left in a mess

A fourth wrote: ‘Where in the world are 3 people meant to sleep/relax in a studio flat?

‘Surely it makes a lot of space for him to book somewhere else so all men have enough space? Why would that scream suspicious I’m so confused?

‘£120 to rent a two bedroom property for the day/night is extremely cheap. I really don’t understand the problem tbh.’

While others suggested that her boyfriend was actually being ‘considerate’ so their flat wouldn’t be left in a mess. 

One person said: ‘It’s not suspicious, it’s considerate. You really want his two mates all squashed in, no privacy, pizza all over the place? And trust me on this men aren’t comfortably sharing a double bed to sleep.’ 

Another agreed saying: ‘So where would you be on this night too? maybe he’s being considerate, instead of having his friends over and you having to find somewhere else to stay he’s doing that so you get to stay in your home for the night!’

While someone else said: ‘He sounds considerate (to both you and his friends) and fun. His night sounds great – take away and good mates, not PARTAAAAY or pulling.

‘You sound rather controlling. How does your ‘usual paranoia’ present itself? Has he ever done anything to give you cause to think he might cheat?’

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