Many couples are keen to spice things up in the bedroom, but mobility isn’t always factored into the tips and guides available.
One look at the Kama Sutra shows the flexibility needed to get into the various positions, most of which aren’t accessible for anyone but trained gymnasts and yogis.
As we get older, we still want to explore intimacy with our partners – and although great sex is more about enthusiasm and an open mind than technique, it may be necessary to tweak positioning to keep things safe, comfortable and pleasurable.
Paulina Tenner, a married, polyamorous, and omnisexual tantric sexpert from JOYclub, tells Metro.co.uk: ‘I’ve personally known people in their seventies with way more energy, stamina, flexibility, and appetite for adventure than I had in my twenties.
‘It is your prerogative, always, to discover what feels comfortable and pleasurable for you.
‘Having said that, you may find that some positions are better suited to you if you experience physical discomfort (for example in your back or knees).’
Here, she explains her favourite seven sex positions for mature couples, so you can get exploring whatever your age.
Each one is suitable for hetero, LGBTQ+, and gender fluid couples, but in the case of two female-bodied people, one partner will penetrate with a strap-on, dildo, or double dildo for mutual penetration).
Miraculous missionary
‘Missionary is often seen as “vanilla”; however, it is still one of my top three favourite positions because of the deep connection it facilitates,’ says Paulina.
To add extra stability to the staple, one partner can lay on their back while the other stands at the end of the bed and penetrates them vertically.
‘This can be enjoyed with your legs hanging off the end of the bed or resting upwards on your partner’s chest (which can help you achieve a deeper climax),’ Paulina adds.
Wrapping your arms and legs around each other can also help ease strain and steady you both, with the added bonus of letting you get super close.
Saucy spooning
‘This is honestly one of the most healing positions that I know, because of its comfort and cosiness,’ explains Paulina.
‘Plus, you can give your lover extra genital stimulation with your fingers or a toy during penetration, while your other hand travels to one of their erogenous zones such as the nape of their neck.’
The penetrating partner can tilt their partner’s pelvis to tailor depth and hit those all-important spots, and the receiving partner can open their legs to allow for easier access.
69 me to the moon
You don’t have to be young lovers to enjoy what Paulina calls ‘mutual genital worship.’
It’s far more comfortable when each partner lays on their side, as this ensures neither has to prop themselves up (or risk suffocation by 69 if there’s a collapse).
Paulina says: ‘If giving and receiving at the same time leaves you feeling like your brain/senses might just explode, pause the stimulation of your partner and just receive, simply gazing lovingly at their genitals (which is a form of worship too).
‘You can then swap and both feel intense pleasure at your own pace.’
Danger-free doggy
‘There are multiple variations of doggy that you can enjoy whether or not your back causes you discomfort or one of you is in a wheelchair,’ says Paulina.
Like in the image above, she recommends one partner sitting on top of the other while leaning on a bed or couch in front of them for extra support.
Alternatively, if standing is more comfortable, the receiving partner can bend over and lay on the bed to anchor them.
‘Almost all positions can be enjoyed by anyone – no matter their age or physicality,’ adds Paulina. ‘You just need to adapt and keep an open mind!’
Cosmic chair action
Whether one partner is in a wheelchair or not, seated positions are great for improving intimacy and achieving deep penetration along with clitoral stimulation.
Paulina advises: ‘Gaze deeply into each other’s eyes, particularly as one/both of you climax; as you thrust up and down you will both feel intense, deep levels of pleasure.
‘This position can start with an exciting striptease and lap dance from one partner, turning cosmic chair action into a broader fantasy or role playing scene.’
Carefree cowgirl
‘There’s sometimes nothing more satisfying for the person being penetrated than being in complete control of the experience in terms of speed, depth, and the angle of thrusts,’ says Paulina.
‘To practice this position in a way which supports the back of the receiver, give yourself extra stability by resting your hands on the legs of your partner as they lie underneath you.’
The penetrating partner can lift their knees to effectively create a ‘seat’ for the receiving partner, or hold on to their lower back to support their movements.
Paulina adds: ‘The Carefree Cowgirl is particularly pleasurable if the receiver has an active Kundalini (a divine feminine energy at the base of the spine) as this position directs sexual energy upwards through the spine very easily.’
Sizzling scissoring
This one can be undertaken by two people with vaginas without the need for any add-ons, but if one of you has a penis, it’s best for the receiving partner to lay on their side. The penetrating partner then sits up with their legs crossing over and holds on to the other’s thighs and legs as they thrust.
While in this position, Paulina says: ‘You can easily eye gaze and place your hands on each other’s hearts; this stimulates a deeper sense of connection while allowing you to both be completely comfortable, using pillows for support if you need to.’
She adds: ‘Always remember that your favourite position might not be the same as your partner’s. You may find it difficult to find a position that gives both of you equal pleasure and stimulation; that’s fine, you don’t need to panic!
‘Just keep experimenting. Perhaps you can switch from one position to another during sex so you both get a chance to enjoy maximum pleasure.
‘Also – try toys! That bit of extra vibration on the clit or g-spot, or a cock ring to help maintain an erection in trickier positions, could transform your shared experience.’
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